Daily Steps On Our Road to Recovery for 2 to 8 August 1999.
Published Last Week. A daily hint published each day since June 1996. This is past my third year anniversary since starting my web pages. Page Down for the next days that are added a day at a time. I have moved to http://www.recoverybydiscovery.com and this daily page is now here at daily.htm . I would appreciate any feedback, questions and suggestions that you have.
2 August 1999
We are peace. We are the ones who upset our own peace.
When we are not at peace, we are the ones who attract upsets
to our peace. We are the ones testing ourselves to see how
much peace we have.
When we want a more peaceful world, we are the ones
that will create that. The only place to begin, is to start with
ourselves. We can not tell anyone else what to do, people
do not like being told what to do. We do not even like to
tell ourselves what to do.
The secrets of finding peace are many. The secret to
finding upset is one. We just do it. We create our anger,
fear, upsets, pain, ... That is why there are so many roads
to recovery, we need them.
3 August 1999
Saint Paul wrote that he counted it all joy. How could he
count pain as joy? He certainly had pain and disappointments.
One reason is that pain is very useful. Pain is part of our healing
processes. Pain is telling our lord most high within what needs
healing. Pain is telling us to go away from something and Pleasure
is telling us to come closer to something.
Having life and life more abundantly means that we need
to resolve our pains to find our pleasure. I wonder how we can
find more pleasure and less pain.
4 August 1999
We were meant to live in a garden of pleasure, that is the
Garden of Eden. The problem has not changed. We mostly live
in the tree of knowledge of good and evil. That is, we are
judgmental. To get back to the tree of life, we need to drop
judgments. All judgments.
What is a judgment? Very simple, when we are upset, we
are in judgment. When we are at peace, we are returning to
the tree of life.
That is why the first card below is about forgiveness. That
is one way, to regain our peace. That is not what the world
teaches. It is beyond what the world teaches. So, when we
play this card, we have to keep playing this card, in spite of
5 August 1999
When we do not have something we want, that is the time
to make a plan to get what we want. When we have something
that we do not want, that is the time to make a plan to get
something different. We have many options from transforming
what we have, to going for something entirely different. When
we are going for something entirely different, it is wise to
change ourselves first. When we do not change ourselves first,
we might end up back where we started.
Sometimes we have to make a dramatic change, to protect
ourselves or those we love and are close to. When we are safe,
we have the time to gradually change and gradually influence
our relationships to change.
This can apply to people. We can want a better relationship
or a different relationship. I know that we can improve any
relationship. We have the power to improve our relationships
or to keep our relationships where they are or to make them
How do I know that we can improve our relationships?
Because I made a plan to improve my relationship with my
wife. I executed my plan and it worked to take our relationship
to another level. It also worked after I completed the plan,
because I had some new habits that fostered an improving
6 August 1999
To improve anything we need a purpose. Our purpose could
be to just improve our relationships. In order to see how we are
doing on our plan to improve our relationships, we need to keep
track of how our relationship is going. We need an objective
rating scale from like 1 to 10, that we can use to measure how
things are going. You see, keeping track of how things are going
and plotting our trends on a chart has a miraculous effect. We become
more conscious of what is happening. We become more capable
of effecting what is happening.
So, we need to make up or find a rating scale to use. Then we
need to ask ourselves each day: "I wonder how I could improve
our relationship today and long term?" Then we can do our daily
actions and make plans for our long term actions. Then we add
our long term actions to our daily actions and just keep track of
how things are going. When we find what is working we do more
of that. When we find something is not working we do less of that.
When something stops working, we do something different.
7 August 1999
One of the shows I like, that is in reruns, is "Due South". The last
one I saw, added Frazier's wisdom that we can not prove our own
virtue. We can prove someone did not have virtue, that is broke
a rule. We can prove that there is reasonable doubt that they broke
a rule. What we can not prove is our innocence. That is why it is
so important to be considered innocent, until proven guilty without
any reasonable doubt. Perhaps that is why that God gave us His
Righteousness, innocence. His atonement makes us all innocent,
when we are willing to let all others be innocent. That is the catch.
That is why I keep saying that we all are doing our best considering
our unconscious baggage. God has already taken that into
I learned some more on a show about the Inquisition. Before the
Inquisition, accusers were given the punishment of those they
accused, when the accused was acquitted. The Inquisition may
not have happened, if the priest were give the punishment of
their accused, if the accused were acquitted. Perhaps more
prosecutors today would not be having so many being proven
innocent by DNA, if we still had the old standard. John Kennedy
did not like being a prosecutor, since he could see better ways than
he could do in that office. Perhaps we have too many with logs
in their eyes, trying to get the splinters out of others... I know that
it is an exaggeration, since it often is a case of log to log and splinter
to splinter. :))
8 August 1999
Flashbacks and Forgiveness
For those that have experience flashbacks, perhaps my
experiences and information may provide some better perspective.
I am a grandfather that recovered from bipolar at midlife crisis
time. My flashbacks included past lives, child abuse, and times
of terror, panic, fear...
I recovered because I decided to forgive everything, no matter
what... And to trust in spirit, no matter what...
I know of another therapist that checked on some memories
that came up and found some of them to not have happened this
lifetime. Some of them did happen.
I know of an experiment in a dentist office where they had
hidden observers watching the dental procedures while the
female clients were given laughing gas. When they were
interviewed in depth after the procedures, many of the women
thought the dentist had taken sexual liberties with them, while
the hidden observers knew that it did not happen.
There are memories from accurate to "false". There are memories
in the present, that may come from before we got here this time, or
even picked up from others. In any case, I do not want to be dragging
any of my past baggage. That is why I choose to forgive, no matter what...
That is why I choose to get on with living a better life. After all, the
greatest revenge, is living a better life, in spite of them and because
of them. I would rather make them a blessing in disguise, than a
curse that I live...
Michael Foster, MA
"Learn HOW to recovery by discovering the blocks you need to remove and the actions you need to take and what you need to let go of as your blocks to your blessings."
From my book in process, The Spiritual Cookbook (Generic Recipes for a Better Life)
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